Be the Change You Wish To See



We often wait for others to change and then we will change.  When we feel a lack of intimacy in our lives, we may wait for our partner to be more caring because that will make it all better.  But what if we are the first to make whatever change we want to see?  What if we approach our partner in a more gentle way?  What if we approach that co-worker that we find hard to work with in a kind way?  The list goes on and on.  A wise person told me to create a vision of what I want my life to be, and then move towards that vision.  I encourage anyone reading this to do the same. 


Happiness resides not in posessions and not in gold; the feeling of happiness swells in the soul.



Life is a blank canvas.


When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed.  But when we are silent, we are still afraid.  So it is better to speak.

-Audre Lorde


The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

-Martin Luther King, Jr.


Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.  You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

-Lucille Ball


True peace is not merely the absence of war, it is the presence of justice.

-Jane Addams 


Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

 -Dr. Seuss


Any mother could perform the jobs of several air-traffic controllers with ease.

-Lisa Alther


Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have.

-Doris Mortman


For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.

-Audrey Hepburn


How much pain have cost us the evils that have

never happened.

-Thomas Jefferson


If you obey all the rules, you miss

all the fun.

                                   -Katharine Hepburn


Humankind has not woven the web of life.

We are but one thread within it.

Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.

All things are bound together.

All things connect. 

-Chief Seattle


I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.  

-Maya Angelou


No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow. 

-Alice Walker


To be meek, patient, tactful, modest, honorable, brave, is not to either manly or womanly, it is to be humane.

-Jane Harrison


What do we live for, if it not to make life less

difficult for each other?

-George Eliot


Memories of our lives, of our works and our deeds will continue in others.

-Rosa Parks


Everyone has talent.  What is rare is the courage to follow to the dark place where it leads.

-Erica Jong


Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I am in, therein to be content.

-Helen Keller


Don't compromise yourself.  You are all you've got.

-Janis Joplin



One cannot manage too many affairs: like pumpkins in the water, one pops up while you try to hold down the other.

-Chinese Proverb



A Cherokee Legend


An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.  "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.


"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.  One is evil-he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego."  He continued the other is good-he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.  The same fight is going on inside of you-and inside of every other person, too." 


The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"


The Cherokee simply replied, "the one you feed."   

This Is What You Shall Do

This is what you shall do; Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men, go freely with powerful uneducated persons and with the young and with the mothers of families, read these leaves in the open air every season of every year of your life, re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss whatever insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem and have the richest fluency not only in its words but in the silent lines of its lips and face and between the lashes of your eyes and in every motion and joint of your body.

-Walt Whitman





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